When we speak, the words that we choose portray our message in a way that is probably much more bold than you expect. Of course the words that we use can give the listener an idea of how educated we are, where we grew up and things like that. But, what I am talking about is much more elemental, more subtle. Watch the video below and see if you can understand the point that I am trying to get to.
I thing that, for me, what this video is saying is that the tone of our message gives a lot of input toward the perception that the listener comes away with. If we use a positive way of saying what is on our minds, then the listener will come away feeling positive. On the other hand, if we use a negative way of portraying our thoughts, the listener won’t feel positive at all. Even when we are relaying the exact same message!
Look at the sign used by the man who was in need of assistance.
Sign 1, I am blind
Sure, it gets a message across to the reader, but it is a negative message. If it is a nice day, many people may not want to focus in on the negativity of somebody “complaining” about being blind. They want to think happy thoughts, they want to focus on the positive.
Having a sign that simply gives the negative in the situation is something that most of the people passing by simply want to ignore. They don’t care to think about it. They have their thoughts on happy things.
Sign 2, It’s a beautiful day
Sign 2 on the other hand, the one that the lady wrote for the gentleman is a positive thought. It sure is a beautiful day, I just can’t see it. It gets the message across to the passer by that the man is blind, but it gives a positive message. Of course, it will be obvious to the onlooker that the man needs help. He is sitting there with a cup for donations, after all. But, he has a positive attitude. People want to help those with the nice outlook, and avoid the negative people. It’s that simple.
So, when you are interacting with others, what kind of demeanor do you show to others? Try to be positive, it will make you happier and also make your interactions more enjoyable – for you and others.